Following is an excerpt from an interview with Sheik Muhammad Al-Munajid. Iqra TV aired this interview on March 22, 2005.
Sheik Muhammad Al-Munajid: According to Islam, a wife needs to comply with her husband's desires in bed. The Prophet Muhammad said: "If a man calls his wife to fulfill his needs, she must come, even if she is by the stove," according to the Al-Tarmizi tradition. They issued a severe warning against to any wife who rebels against her husband in bed. The Prophet said: "If a man invites his wife to bed and she refuses, and he is angry at her, the angels curse her until she wakes up in the morning." This tradition was mentioned in the collections of Al-Bukhari and Al-Muslim. God is aware of men's needs. He knows that a man may have just come home, and maybe he desires something or maybe he saw something. He knows what this need is, and this is why he ordered the wife to consent to her husband, even if she is by the stove. Even if she is baking she must consent to him. Moreover, the Prophet Muhammad said to the woman: "Compare yourself to him, he's your paradise and your hell." Imam Ahmad passed this on in his true Hadith. The wife must consent to her husband's wishes and obey him.
The wife in the West is not obligated to do so. Moreover, a wife can be raped by her husband there. They claim that if he has sex with her against her will - this is rape! They consider this rape. They claim she must be willing. They claim that she must want it. There is a disagreement in the West on this issue. Some do give the husband the right to whatever he wants, but in many other cases they don't. Therefore, the wife doesn't submit to the man whenever he wants.